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I wish to have a home

I wish to have a home (Part II)

After the video, I feel myself is sooo lucky enough to have a “complete” and happy family. I grow healthy under the love, care and protection from parents, i get the best education from kindergarten to university, i do not have to worry about shelter, food and cloth, i have sufficient money to spend, i have the freedom to make my own decision etc. In the road of life, i am not alone because….i have them

Comparing to the contestant background, i am soo lucky that all of my siblings are able to stick together and grow up under a roof with lots of fun. Under the guidance of parent, we all now are grow up with self-discipline, well behaviour, successfully graduated from university,  getting a good and stable job, having a caring partner and now its our duty to repay our parent for their hard work in bringing up us this – FOUR  MONKEYS. (Except for my youngest brother who is still studying).

I am a person who is very stick to the home. I remember how tough it is when the 1st time i moved to KL far away from home ALONE, started my 4 years college life and learn to be independent. This is my very first time to leave home and I have took such a loooong time to adapt with the new environment without my family and friends companion. It is realllyy a veryy difficult time for me. For the first month in KL, I am very shame to tell that,  i cried  and cried, in phone, in bed and even in bathroom due to serious home sick. KEKE. I cried until the extent that my family hold a meeting to discuss whether have to discontinue my study in KL and ask me come back to continue study in Form 6. But after all, they come out with a solution that is not contact me for few weeks and force me to learn INDEPENDENT. This is actually work for me, because i slowly learn to enjoy college life after get to know a group of buddies come from different state I really could not imagine the day without my family. I can’t live without them   (Luckily i did not give up my study in KL or else i could not get to know unclechan liao )

That time, i used to come back home quite frequently. I must thank to Unclechan who accompany me for my very first time balik kampung. I am soo thankful for his helping because to a road idiot like me, are sooo easy to get lost in a big city. Luckily, i found someone who is come from the same hometown and same school with me. This is very important because that time i need a strong belief that i am NOT ALONE in this strange city.  Later on, we used to go back hometown togather and our “pure” friendship grow.

One of a sentence in the lyric:-

雖然你有家　什麼也不缺
為何看不見你露出笑臉
永遠都說沒有愛　整天不回家

I remember there was a time his father could not recognise his voice when he phone back home to ask someone to fetch him from Medan Kid. KEKE. My intuition immediately told me that, this “Bei Ka Zai” sure long time didn’t go back home already! Soo useless! Since then, from a pure friend starting point, i off and on will nag him the important to back home accompany family. Sometimes when i back hometown, sure i will ask him back togather. KEKE. Seems like my effort did not waste because now he know to come back home automatically to see see his parent and of course ME!

The purpose i post this entry is not to show off how good i am to have family and someone special as companion. There were soo many times people told me that not everyone also own a happy and stable family as mine. I have listened too many sad story from friends who are come from a broken family I feel sympathy to them but i just could not do anything other than borrowing my ear or shoulder for them whenever they are in need. I understand well their desire to have a complete and happy forever home.

For people who grow up in broken homes, remember that you are not alone and you actually can make something different of yourself by being cheerful, be brave and strong

For those parent, please bear in mind that love and caring of both parents are essential for a healthy growth of a child. It can be understandable that two married people are unable to stay together for whatever reasons, however, is it the right for innocent children to become the victim of divorced and go through the painful? NO! Please don’t repeat the mistake as what the adults have did in the above video clip.

For those who did not go back home for a long looong time or even those who doesn’t like to stay at home, please go back home more often, please appreciate every single moment you spend with family. Honestly, I really hate those who see friends more important than family, those who leave their home (离家出走） after quarrel with parent This is such a irresponsible / immature behaviour and after all they will only make their parent upset They may not know there are soo many people around the world like the contestant are actually wish to have a perfect family like them.

Sometimes what our parent want is not the money or gift, but they need our accompanion, our love and care as what they have given us when we were child.  Please show your love by going back home regularly and accompany them more often. You will know, you are actually the LUCKIEST person in the world

People will never know how special someone / something is until they leave / lost it. But maybe sometimes it’s important to leave, so they are given the chance to see how special that someone / something really is.

Share with you all the meaningful lyric.

我想要有个家

主唱 潘美辰

我想要有个家          一个不需要华丽的地方
在我疲倦的时候       我会想到它
我想要有个家           一个不需要多大的地方
在我受惊吓的时候    我才不会害怕

谁不会想要家           可是就有人没有它
脸上流着眼泪           只能自己轻轻擦
我好羡慕他              受伤后可以回家
而我只能孤单的       孤单的寻找我的家

虽然我失去了           温暖的家
但是我不会               轻易被墼垮
只要心中充满爱     就会被关怀
无法埋怨谁               一切只能靠自己

虽然我不再               渴望有奇迹
但是我知道               决不能放弃
伤痛不容许再等待     勇敢站起来
重建一个梦，重建一颗心， 让我重建一个家

Just think over, a man only have to spend a little time to go out shopping, having dinner with her, watching a movie, simple gift,  help her to kill cockroaches/insects, solve her computer problem, simple card in important occasion, helping her to carry heavy stuff / doing some housework, showing care to her family, say a few words to touch her heart, do what you have promised etc..

What do you get in return?

1. She would help you to do the things that you hated most i.e. Housework, washing clothes, cooking, sleep your child, waiting for you at night for your return.

2. She would prepare a warm dinner for you after you come back from work.

3. She would give birth to your child  and experience the unbearable pain.

4. She would care and feed the child that carry your surname for many years to come no matter how naughty the child would be.

5. She would give u massage after worked no matter how tired she is.

6. When you are down, she will be the first to encourage you.

7. When you are happy, she would be the first to feel your happiness before you open mouth to tell her.

8. When you achieve some good results at work / study, she feels the happiness with all her heart and pray to God to bless you with more success in the future.

Man out here, Please do not repay your girl by:-

- talk less and tell her not to bother your things by saying you don’t understand 1.

- ask her to sleep when she wanted to spend some time with you sharing with some simple happening of the day.

- telling lie to her.

- rather spend time outside and letting her to wait for your return in the living room / with a table of dishes.

- scolding her badly for small matter.

Remember:-

If you have succeeded in conquering her heart, she will ceaselessly sacrifice for you till the end of you life.

If you have break her heart, she will walk away from your life forever without looking back behind.

Below are some simple comic which i found it is interesting and wanted to share with you all…

Same for the girl, please appreciate the man who comfort you when you are down, give you a hand when you are in need, tell joke to make you happy, holding you hand and never let go.

In your whole life, you may meet with thousand million people. But, for two person meet together at the right time, right place, right feeling and crash on each others are never easy. For two person to start the process from stranger, to classmate, to friendship, to love and until to family are much more difficult that everyone thought. I believe, by adding some love + some understanding + some concern + some care + some tolerance + some loyalty, it would be happy ending